murnut wrote:Toon is my friend...I take the good with the bad.
He is who he is and I'm okay with that.
Yeah - actually, after swearing that I'd never add that a**hole to my Facebook friends list - a few months ago I got a request from him and I simply couldn't resist. The guy's abrasiveness is contagious and funny (so long as it's directed elsewhere...LOL). Sometimes he can be insensitive with the attempts to be politically-incorrect (sometimes it comes across as doing so just for the sake of doing so) - but other times he hits the nail on the head so hard that I can't help but try and ignore all of the other painfully insensitive comments.
He is smart and knowledgeable on some subjects that interest me.
Same here - although a little too confident at times that he has it *right* when he doesn't. Of course, we're all guilty of that from time to time I suppose.
He told me in mid 2007 that OMF was a cult and I thought he was crazy insane.
He was correct in a sense that the leadership of OMF does behave exactly like a cult.
Many OMF members have thought me crazy when I tell them this.
But it is true
Yes - people have a very distinct idea of what a cult is...but the reality is much harder to identify, especially when you've become entrenched into the group mentality.
Here is the best definition I've ever seen to classify a group as a cult. Author Margot Adler used this criteria to identify the warning signs of neopagan cults - I've highlighted those points where I believe OM ranks very highly:
Score each item on a scale of 1 to 10 (or whatever is your favorite scale):
1. Internal control: the amount of internal political power exercised by leader(s) over members.
2. Wisdom claimed by leader(s): the amount of infallibility declared about decisions.
3. Wisdom credited to leader(s) by members; the amount of trust in decisions made by leader(s).
4. Dogma: the rigidity of reality concepts taught; the amount of doctrinal inflexibility.
5. Recruiting: the emphasis put on attracting new members; the amount of proselytizing.
6. Front groups: the number of subsidiary groups using names different from that of the main group.
7. Wealth: the amount of money and/or property desired or obtained; the degree of emphasis on members' donations.
8. Political power: the amount of external political influence desired or obtained.
9. Sexual manipulation of members by leader(s); the amount of control of sex lives of members.
10. Censorship: the amount of control over members' access to outside opinions on group: its doctrines: or its leader(s).
11. Dropout control: the intensity of efforts directed at preventing or returning dropouts.
12. Endorsement of violence when used by or for the group or its leader(s).
13. Paranoia: the amount of fear concerning real or imagined enemies: the perceived power of opponents.
14. Grimness: the amount of disapproval concerning jokes about the group, its doctrines, or its leader(s).
Considering about half of the points could legitimately describe the OM forum, I'd say it's definitely at least well on its way toward becoming another cult.
-Ryan